A woman revealed that she asked her Army boyfriend to temporarily rehome his “untrained” dog when she takes care of their newborn while he travels — and now he is trying to “guilt” her into taking care of the pet.
The 32-year-old pregnant woman detailed her experience on Reddit “Am I the A——” forum on Friday, March 7, explaining that she and her 31-year-old boyfriend are expecting their first child and that he recently made the “very sudden decision” to rejoin the Army after getting let go from his job.
“They want to ship him out in as little as two weeks from this past Tuesday. He’ll have to cross train and best case scenario […] he’s home around end of August,” she added.
The Redditor noted that her boyfriend expects her to take care of his dog when he is gone “while also caring for a newborn baby” — despite the fact she has “no friends or family here and will have zero help or break.”
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The woman also said the dog has a host of behavioral issues.
“He’s not fixed and is extremely hyper, untrained, has zero manners, is destructive, gets aggressive towards me, and his behavior has only gotten worse over the months,” she wrote. “He’s torn up parts of the couch, gets into trash all the time, jumps up on the counter and steals food or will steal it even right out of your hand (not gently at all).”
The dog — which the original poster [OP] described as “pretty big” — also growls, jumps on people, and ”has started pooping and peeing in the house.” She also wrote that he has on occasion bitten both her and her boyfriend.
The woman emphasized that she has asked her boyfriend to “get a handle on his dog” for “the past 9-10 months,” but her boyfriend “has literally done NOTHING.”
The Reddit user said she is at her “wit’s end” and is genuinely concerned for the safety of her future baby, especially because the dog has “never been around actual babies before.” She said that when she confronts her boyfriend about all of this, he simply “excuses everything his dog does.”
The OP said her boyfriend is “trying hard to guilt me into keeping his dog here because [he said] he’s already stressed and I’m supposed to make it easier on him and take care of things on the home front.“
“I really, really, REALLY don’t want to be responsible for his dog while he’s gone and I have a baby to take care of,” she continued, before asking, “AITA [am I the a——] if I do make him find other arrangements for his dog or do I need to suck it up and just deal with it?”
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The woman’s fellow Reddit users were quick to chime in and reassure her that her feelings are completely valid — with many commenting that they think her boyfriend is the a—— here.
“NTA [not the a——],” wrote one person. “Your BF is, though. He’s abandoning you. He’s abandoning his newborn child. He’s abandoning his dog. And dumping every single bit of that responsibility on you to run away from home.”
“Def nta,” agreed another commenter. “I wouldn’t feel safe dealing with a dog that’s consistently baring [its] teeth at me. Your BF is a major a– for not prioritizing your safety.”
Someone else added, “You’re about to have a baby and he made this decision [to reenlist] on his own? And now he wants you to prioritize taking care of a dog while you’re being a single parent (which it sounds like you didn’t opt in to)? NTA and he needs to seriously reevaluate his priorities.”
