A woman is asking for advice after her sister-in-law destroyed her wedding cake.
In an anonymous submission to Dear Snarky, an advice series by content creator Sherry Kuehl, the recently married woman explained that she is “furious” because her sister-in-law thought it would be “funny” to wreck her wedding cake during cocktail hour.
“My husband’s 27-year-old sister decided it would be funny to take her hands and grab a hunk of wedding cake. Like she decimated a side of one of the tiers with her hands,” said Kuehl, who read aloud the bride’s submission in a TikTok videoposted on Feb. 20. “Then she had a friend record her shoving the cake into her boyfriend’s mouth for a social media post.”
The $1,200 cake was “absolutely gorgeous” and meant to serve as the “centerpiece” of the couple’s wedding reception. While the wedding planner “tried to disguise the hole in the cake,” it still “looked like an animal had attacked it.”
Now, the bride wants her sister-in-law to reimburse her for the cost of the wedding cake.
Bride arguing with another woman at wedding (stock image).
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The sister-in-law not only “never ever apologized” for her actions, but she also refuses to pay for the cake.
The bride and groom’s families are divided over the situation. While the groom supports his wife, his mother doesn’t. The bride’s “mad” mother-in-law is taking her daughter’s side, arguing that the bride is just “being petty.” Meanwhile, the bride’s mother warns her to “not antagonize” her in-laws “so early” in her marriage.
The bride asked Kuehl how she should handle the situation moving forward. Kuehl replied that she’s on “team petty.”
“Your brand new mother-in-law does not know the definition of petty. What her daughter did was disgusting,” she said. “It was an act of violence toward that wedding cake. The fact that she never apologized, the fact that she posted on social media, the fact that her mother is making excuses for her grown adult’s behavior, it was very disrespectful what she did.”
“It was a f— you to you and, I think, her brother,” she added.
Kuehl agreed with the bride that “the least” the sister-in-law could do is reimburse her, and noted that it’s “too late” for a meaningful apology.
In response to the bride’s mother’s comments, Kuehl pointed out that she must “stand up” for herself and set boundaries.
“You need to have boundaries right now, early in your marriage,” Kuehl said, emphasizing that the bride needs to demand that the groom’s family pay her back.
Even if the woman’s in-laws complain about the situation, Kuehl said it will be a lesson learned for them.
“They know not to mess around with you because you’re not going to stand for it,” she said. “And I don’t think it’s ever too early in a marriage to let your in-laws and your extended family know, ‘This is me. These are my rules. These are my boundaries. Do not cross them.”
