- In a now-viral video on TikTok, bride-to-be Kate O’Neill explains how her fiancé Michael O’Malley developed an “insane but practical” way to cut down their wedding guest list
- The groom-to-be designed a “little scoring system” for each potential guest using Google Sheets. Each person is numerically ranked on a scale of zero to 10 based on four categories, then is assigned a final letter grade that determines whether or not they will receive a wedding invitation
- Due to popular demand, the “Don’t Give a Sheet” template is now available for purchase on Shopify
A bride and groom found an “insane but practical” way to narrow down their wedding invitees.
One of the most difficult parts of wedding planning is shortening the guest list. Often due to budget restraints, not everyone can make the cut. Instead of stressing, a couple developed a systematic way to easily determine who gets a spot on their list.
“POV: your fiancé is an excel nerd and created a score sheet for your wedding guest list…” bride-to-be Kate O’Neill titled a video she shared via TikTok on Dec. 29. In the now-viral video, her fiancé, Michael O’Malley, excitedly turns to his computer to detail his Google Sheet scoring system.
“So what we’re doing is… There are far too many people who we want to invite to our wedding compared to who we can invite to our wedding just based on numbers. ‘Cause we’re so bloody popular,” he said. “So what I’ve done is, I’ve devised a little scoring system for each.”
“This is insane,” O’Neill said, to which O’Malley responded, “It’s not insane, it’s beautiful. It’s absolutely beautiful.”
In the clip, individual wedding guest names were hidden to maintain privacy, but every section they were scored on was visible. After being categorized by relation (friend vs. family) and side of relationship (bride vs. groom), individuals were numerically ranked by the following columns: necessity of inviting, likelihood of coming, groom’s score and bride’s score.
Scores were ranked on a scale of zero to 10.
Couple sits on a couch looking at papers and a laptop (stock image).
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“This is like how much you want them at the wedding, so how important it is to you that they come,” O’Malley clarified of the bride and groom’s personal scores.
The four categories were then totaled for an overall score, with the highest total being 40. Afterward, each guest is given a final letter grade that determines whether or not they will be sent a wedding invitation.
“We have then used an if/then statement to deduce what grade they shall receive,” O’Malley said. “As and Bs, you’re coming! Cs, we don’t know yet but based on numbers and how much this bloody thing is going to cost. And guess what, if we don’t like ya — see all you guys (Fs), we don’t know your names, but you’re not coming to our wedding!”
“Insane but practical,” O’Neill wrote in the caption.
TikTok users in the comments section mostly agreed with the couple — who announced their engagement in July — applauding them on their creative way to handle their wedding guest list.
“I’ve often heard women say they want their husbands to be more involved with the wedding planning process. This is not what I thought they meant, yet I am impressed,” one person commented.
Many commenters begged for a template of the spreadsheet so that they could use it too.
“If you sell this template then the wedding will pay for itself 🤩🤩,” a comment with more than 60,000 likes reads.
Ask, and you shall receive! An updated wedding guest scoring system spreadsheet entitled “Don’t Give a Sheet” is available for purchase on Shopify because they “broke Etsy.” Now, maybe O’Malley and O’Neill will be able to afford to invite some more Cs and Ds.
