A bride is refusing to change her wedding date to accommodate the groom’s best friend.
In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, the bride, 29, explained that she and her fiancé, 31, are “eager” to begin married life so they picked a wedding date just three months after their engagement. Although the scheduled day works best for the couple, the groom’s best friend, 35, will be on vacation until the following day.
The “upset” friend called the bride and demanded she change the wedding date so that she and her husband could attend. In response, the bride explained that as a healthcare worker, her vacation time is “VERY limited,” so she was “strategic” in picking the only week available to her.
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“We found a venue that we loved that had a date available on such short notice. We put down a deposit and sent out invitations,” the bride wrote. “I absolutely do not want to change the date of my wedding.”
Because everything is “perfect and fit wonderfully” into the bride’s only vacation time available, she suggested that her fiancé’s friend end her trip a day early to attend the wedding. The Redditor figured that changing domestic flight plans would be much easier and less expensive than losing a venue deposit and having to re-plan a wedding.
“She refuses, and is claiming that I chose the date of the wedding specifically so that they could not attend, since she and I had a bit of bad blood at the start of my relationship with my fiancé,” the bride said. “To clarify, this is 1,000% NOT the case.”
The bride and groom have known each other for 10 years, but didn’t start dating until two years ago. Meanwhile, the groom and his “important” friend have been close since childhood.
Even though the bride “never suspected any type of romantic inklings” between the pair, she requested that they “not spend time alone” once she got into a relationship with the groom. He agreed, wanting to “respect [her] boundaries,” but his friend wasn’t on board.
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“She did not like it one bit, and called me controlling and insecure,” the bride recalled. “Call me conservative or whatever, but I don’t see how it made any sense when I could just join them? It got a little nasty for a bit, but we have since worked it out and she and I are back on good terms, though I can’t say whether or not that popped up in the back of my head when she started accusing me of planning this date on purpose.”
Friends of the groom’s best friend argue that the bride is in the wrong. In contrast, her fiancé supports her decision to keep their wedding date. Most Reddit users have taken the bride’s side in the comments section.
“Rescheduling a return trip one day earlier is significantly less burdensome than rescheduling a wedding,” the top comment read in part.
Other Reddit users were confused as to why the bride is dealing with the woman at all, considering she’s the groom’s friend and not hers.
“I feel like your soon-to-be husband needs to be the one to put his foot down with his friend,” one person wrote. “He agrees to not changing the date, so he should be the one putting her in her place about this.”
