A Missouri mother who set her own home on fire, killing her four children, was in an “awful place” due to ongoing custody disputes with both her ex-husband and ex-boyfriend, her family told police this week.
Bernadine “Birdie” Pruessner, 39, intentionally set fire to a mattress inside her home in Ferguson, Missouri, on Monday, in what was deemed a murder-suicide, according to a St. Louis County Police press release shared with 360aproko.
Police identified Pruessner’s children as Ellie and Ivy Pruessner, 9; Jackson Spader, 6; and Millie Spader, 2. Three dogs were also killed in the fire.
Pruessner made multiple social media posts about her children in the days leading up to the fire.
“All my kids, peacefully sleeping in my bed. Curled up together. Knowing they are loved so fiercely that I’d do absolutely anything for them. This is my favorite moment,” Pruessner wrote on Facebook,about four hours before police responded to the blaze.
Court records reviewed by 360aprokoshow that Pruessner was in a lengthy battle with her former husband to relocate their family, closer to school. In an interview with FOX affiliate KTVI, Pruessner’s attorney, Nathan Cohen, described the case as one of “the ugliest custody scenarios” he has witnessed.
Cohen said that Pruessner’s ex-husband, the father of her twin daughters, had objected to her moving into a family member’s home in Creve Coeur, Missouri, which would be closer to his home and the twins’ school.
According to the outlet, Pruessner’s ex-husband objected to the family member his ex wanted to move in with. He argued that the move was not in the kids’ best interest and would be “detrimental to their development, well-being, and safety.”
In a statement posted on GoFundMe,Birdie Pruessner’s family claimed her ex-boyfriend, who was the father of her two younger children, had “joined” her ex-husband’s efforts to prevent her relocation.
“She saw her children being used by their fathers as foils and she viewed the process and system for resolution of that those claims as cumbersome, tedious and never ending,” the statement read. “Each day that Birdie would score a step forward, her ex-husband and or her former boyfriend would undertake an action to denigrate or undermine her role as a mother.”
Despite the incident, Preussner’s family described her as “a wonderful mother and a brilliant educator,” who “got to an awful place, one that resulted in tragic consequences.”
According to the family statement, Preussner was witnessing her children “slowly and steadily suffering,” as she was going through the legal process.
“She viewed the children as being used by their fathers as a means to hurt Birdie at their expense,” the statement read. “Tragically, she made the wrong choice. Birdie was fiercely independent, rejecting our support accepting only our love.”
According to court records, the custody case was dismissed on Thursday, due to Preussner’s death. An attorney listed as the ex-husband’s representative did not immediately respond to360aproko request for a statement.
