Shahs of Sunset star Mercedes “MJ” Javid didn’t want to leave reality TV on a sour note. At season 8’s end, it seemed as if things were fractured beyond repair between MJ and her friend of nearly 35 years, Reza Farahan, after months of digs, personal attacks and one restraining order taken out against MJ’s husband, Tommy Feight. MJ broke down crying at the virtual reunion, seeking sympathy from her former friend, who remained unfazed as MJ recounted feeling abandoned by him around the time she gave birth to her and Tommy’s first child, Shams, in 2019. The pair signed off the Zoom maybe worse off than they were before the taping. Then the next morning, MJ called Reza.

“So after the reunion, I was super duper in my feelings,” MJ recalls to ET. “I woke up really early in the morning the day that I called him and he answered, and it was, like, an inappropriate time to call somebody that you haven’t talked to in such a long time.”

“I knew he would be awake,” she adds, “and we both were just like, we’re just going to meet up in a park, and all these amazing feelings [came up] about my friend and I’m really, really, really excited.”

“I definitely wouldn’t want to end [the show] on a low note like last year, because I think that we’re continuing to bring so much,” MJ says, “and I would never want to stop sharing my story with people, because there’s so many important messages, especially with motherhood, and marriage, and life, and all the ups and downs.”

That off-camera chat made the season 9 premiere feel a little confusing, though, seeing as the duo’s biggest step toward reconciliation happened without the audience present. MJ admits she wasn’t even thinking about Shahs when she called up Reza. “There was nothing that would’ve kept me from reaching out to him that day,” she says. “And, yeah, I don’t know whether cameras are good, bad or relevant to those things. You know what I mean?”

“Because there was a pandemic, and there was silence, and there was restraining orders, and there was court cases… and there was all these times where I was like, what would have been different if I would have reached out to him, even though there was all that stuff?” MJ ponders. “And life is so, so incredibly precious that it’s really worth it to rip off a Band-aid. If I’m afraid — which of course I am, I’m nervous to reconnect. I’ve got conflicting feelings — but … when I did, it felt so important and so good.”

Mercedes MJ Javid and Reza Farahan during their feud on Shahs of Sunset
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There’s still much work to be done (or, at least, seen on TV if already completed) for MJ and Reza to get back to the place they once were (something MJ’s adamant will happen). Reza and his husband, Adam Neeley, took out that restraining order against Tommy amid Reza and MJ’s feud. The couple made the choice after Tommy destroyed some of their property, smashing planters in their yard (“I broke a plant. I wanted to break his legs,” Tommy explained) in retaliation for Reza exposing MJ’s personal medical history, including undergoing an emergency hysterectomy due to birth complications. Whether Reza and Adam finally dropped the order remains to be seen, with MJ teasing that fans will find everything out as season 9 continues to air.

“I think that Tommy… so Tommy watched Reza on Watch What Happens Live,” MJ reveals, “and for him to enjoy watching Reza on Watch What Happens Live, and liking what Reza said to Andy [Cohen] showed me — in volumes … that he’s receiving. Since they’re not communicating and they’re not seeing each other, obviously, he is still getting a taste of where Reza’s head is at. And I think Tommy appreciates that there’s now peace, because they were both in such an unhappy place, all of us, in an unhappy, dark place before. So now it’s like turning the page, you know?”

As far as viewers know, Tommy has stayed committed to his ask that MJ not let Reza meet their son. The season 9 trailer teases a tearful Reza asking if he can ever meet Shams, but when pressed on whether that moment has happened yet, MJ says she can’t spoil it.

“I just think that every day, it’s better than the day before,” she offers of her relationship with Reza, noting she had just gotten home from his house before her video call with ET. “Even when you watch, you’re going to see, one step forward, one step back.”

“It tugs at my heart,” she says of the journey viewers will soon see. “It nudges at my ego. It’s like, ‘What have you been doing for all the last time that we’ve had by staying apart?’ It sucks. It’s not fun. So much better [together]. And it is really worth it. It’s worth the work.”

MJ says becoming a mom changed her entire outlook on life, making her take stock of the people in it and how she treats them.

“It’s really because I didn’t have the most nurturing mom growing up,” she shares, referencing her tough-as-nails mother, Vida, who has admittedly softened since becoming a grandmother to Shams.

“I feel like I missed out on learning how to be affectionate, and particularly nurturing and affectionate and taking care of another person,” MJ says, adding that she’s especially focused on her female friendships. Reza previously criticized MJ for how she treated previous Shahs cast members, including Lilly Ghalichi, Asa Soltan Rahmati and Asifa Mirza, who all exited the series after butting heads with MJ, who is quick to note that Reza “is just as equally at fault about that aspect of us having a hard time keeping our relationships clean because we’re both messy.”

“Becoming a mother has taught me that the same compassion and nurturing characters that you give to your child, you can give to your friends,” she muses. “And I want to learn from motherhood and adopt that in my friendships.”

MJ says her newly reformed bond with longtime co-star Golnesa “GG” Gharachedaghi is evidence of the growth she’s worked on, and that fans will see the women become closer than they’ve ever been, thanks in part to GG becoming a mother, as well. She welcomed son Elijah in 2020.

“Hopefully you shed some of your ego as you grow up and hopefully you start to learn from those mistakes,” MJ says. “Until you talk and see each other face to face, you just harbor all this unnecessary resentment.”

MJ notes that motherhood has also changed her relationship with Tommy, for the better.

“We love each other more because of what we created,” she gushes. “And he’s the light of our life every moment of the day. So you look at your partner and you say, without words, a million times a day, ‘Look what we made. Look what we did. We did that.'”

“Now that our priority has shifted from when we met, it was so romantic and sexy, and now it’s not,” she adds, “and it’s completely this beautiful thing called parenthood that neither of us knew we were going to have the privilege to experience.”

Mercedes Javid, Tommy Feight
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That pivot from sexy to more wholesome recently got a shock, when MJ admitted on an episode of Shahs of Sunset that her sexual fantasy is a “gang bang.” Tommy had no idea she’d made such a personal confession on camera.

“He was so pissed,” MJ confesses. “The episode hadn’t even aired yet [on the West Coast], and people on the other timeline were tweeting and DM-ing him and Instagram comments. He’s looking into his phone typing furiously, and I’m completely oblivious. And he goes, ‘Oh, that’s good. Your fantasy’s a gang bang?’ And I go, ‘How do you know?’ I was like, ‘How did you know that?’ And he was like, ‘It’s on Instagram!’ And I was like, ‘Yeah. I mean, what? What? What?’ Yes, that is why it’s called a fantasy. It’s not ever going to happen, and we’re allowed to think about whatever we want.”

“Tommy was very displeased and extremely shows how old-school he is,” she says. “And there’s not a lot he can do about it. And I definitely don’t want to hear what his fantasies are, although his will be, like, really boring.”

While the couple can no longer conceive naturally, MJ says baby No. 2 is a constant thought as Shams gets older.

“Once I decide that we can handle another baby, I’m going to find a person that I’m going to force to hold the embryo,” she says. “So if it’s somebody that I know personally that’s willing to carry it — because I have a lot of younger cousins — then I’m just going to make them be my surrogate. And then, until that time, we have our hands full with a 2-year-old.”

That 2-year-old has also made MJ dive deeper into her Persian heritage. The 48-year-old recently updated all of her social media to reflect her given name, Mercedeh, and not the anglicized Mercedes (though she’s comfortable going by both).

“You’ve been [saying] it wrong this whole time,” she jokes. “The reason I want to lean [into] my natural given name, Mercedeh, is because of the identity crisis that I grew up having with culture, because it’s really hard to stop and explain Mercedeh, and so, it turns into Mercedes and then MJ, because of business. And then, here we are.”

“And now that I have a son, I wanted to preserve culture,” MJ adds. “He’s been given a Persian name, and I want to, like… I’m suddenly inspired to make sure that I’m keeping my Iranian culture more pure and intact, because now he’s half-Persian and … I feel like when you have a child, and you start thinking about somebody else instead of yourself, you think about the meaning behind everything. Like, it’s more important to me now to stick to what was given to me than to modify it, to adhere to what’s easier for other people.”