As a young woman in Nigeria, would you prefer building wealth with a man with potential or being with a wealthy man who just wants to show you the world?

I’m in my 20s and I have had my fair share of boyfriends but no one has stimulated me to the degree that I needed. Every love affair initially felt like bliss, and it usually quickly turned sour. I needed more, I wanted more, heck I deserved more. I needed someone to see me truly and desire me like no other. I didn’t think my requirements were steep. I needed love, affection, and attention from my potential man, and for him to spoil me silly. I desired that the most in my man. I needed him to be wealthy and sophisticated so that when I showed him off, everyone would have eyes on him. Sort of like Jidenna the artist. A classic man!  And of course, he had to be generous, gentle, well-spoken, and appeal to my soft, feminine side. 

And you may be asking what I have to offer this man, stay with me, I will tell you. I graduated summa cum laude from the University of Chicago, Illinois for my first degree and I have a Master’s in Public Health from Stanford University. I have worked in Corporate, government, and Non-Profit organizations. Right now, I work with an NGO that provides care such as education and shelter to at-risk and street kids. I have been doing this for 2 years now and I love my job. It is fulfilling. I make enough money to take care of myself but the thing is, as a woman, the odds are against us and so we need to always find a balance. I wanted to be taken care of. I wanted the Soft Life without having to spend my money on it. I know what you’re going to say – is this going to make me happy and give me my heart desires? The answer is absolutely YES. I know you also want to ask “Where will you find this kind of man?”, don’t worry, we are going to get there. 

Did I want to marry this man? I have never been very particular about marriage but I do want a long-term commitment with whoever my partner is going to be. If it did lead to marriage, fantastic, and if it didn’t, oh well – all good things must come to an end. 

After a long 6 months of trying new hobbies and spending time with myself, I met the man for me. Yes, I did! Ebuka was everything and more in the man that I wanted. He had about 8 years on me but that didn’t matter. He was kind, selfless, generous, sweet, sensitive and SO BLOODY RICH! He has estates all over Nigeria, and houses in the US and Canada. The first thing he did after a month into our relationship was move me to his Victoria Island Mansion. A mansion for little old me. I was in heaven. It’s not as if I didn’t have my place, I did o… but why will I be paying yearly rent when my man has houses and estates all over Lagos? Abeg – I didn’t even need to ask. 

He also owned two hotels in Parkview, Ikoyi, and three in Lekki Phase 1. He traveled quite frequently for work so I didn’t get to see him often. He took me on our first baecation 3 months into our relationship. We spent a month in Cabo. It was everything that I needed. I came back to Nigeria as a new woman. All my friends could see the newfound glow on me. I was a happy girl, living her best life. I enjoyed the pace that our relationship took. I saw him maybe 2 or 3 times a month and even when he was absent, I still felt his presence very much around me because he didn’t want me to think of anyone else. He sent me weekly gifts ranging from flowers to wines to watches to bags and shoes. Kai! I manifested this man and he came to life.  We went on trips every 3-4 months. In fact, at this point – I didn’t need to work again but I am not that kind of woman. I believe a woman has to have her income but that’s just me. 

Now enough about my relationship, I know you are waiting for the juiciest part. How did I meet Ebuka? Well, I will tell you, but you have to promise not to loud it. 

So my best babe, Sade, introduced me to an elite dating site called sugardaddy.ng.. it is a discreet community as it only allows a select few in. And you know… it is a Global network, which means it exists all over the world and it just launched in Nigeria. The deal is that you have to be someone of good status to be a member and so when you join, you become a member of Sugar Daddy Global and you have a wide range of connections! As to what they require of you? Be brilliant, be affluent, and be genuine, the members are not there to play but to seek meaningful relationships with people in their league. And that is how I met Ebuka. We got speaking 3 days after I signed up and there was an instant connection. We texted daily for 2 weeks before our first date… Do you want to know what he did on our first date? I’ll tell you in my next post. See you soon. 

With all my love, Nnenna.